Hello all my tarot friends. I apologize for not being around much recently; I’ve been neglecting this blog but haven’t been neglecting the tarot!
Recently I was lucky enough to be hired at a company’s open house as a guest reader and it was quite the experience…in fact, it was my first experience reading for people who weren’t my friends or family. I won’t get into the specifics of the experience, but suffice it to say that I gave about 12 people readings and all but two of them were what I would call successful.
In today’s post, I’d like to talk about how to get a really great reading. It’s true that no two tarot professionals (and I certainly don’t count myself amongst their ranks…yet) go about the reading the same way, but there are a few basic things I’ve noticed over the years that remain the same. Of course I couldn’t generalize from a querent’s perspective but I believe there are a few basic things you can do to make sure you get your reading’s (and money’s) worth.
Tip 1: Tarot readings are usually framed around a single question.
Of course that question could easily have many follow-up questions, but basically it all boils down to one thing you’d like to know. That being said, that single thing doesn’t have to be specific to the point of being a life story! Some good questions can be very general, such as “What should I know about my love life right now?” “What should I watch out for financially in the future?” or even—and there’s nothing wrong with this—”what’s going on in my life generally?”
The reason I mention this as a tip is because by and large I think people get tarot readings because they’re curious about the process itself. Unfortuately, being curious about having a reading is not the same as being curious about a new movie or a new book. We readers need you to be actively engaged in the process. After all, the cards can’t tell you anything unless you give them something to investigate. Think of them like the Google search field. You can’t leave the field blank and hit “Search.” You haven’t told the search engine to find anything…and it won’t!
Tip 2: Tarot readings are about what might happen, not what will happen.
This is important! Having a tarot reading does not mean that free will and self-control have been wrenched from your hands. You are still the arbiter of your own actions and your fate is something for which you and you alone are responsible. It might be tempting to think that the cards are showing you what’s on the road ahead like potholes in the street you can’t avoid, but I encourage you to think of a reading more like the ability to call the city and complain about said potholes! In other words, think of the cards as a fun, wise friend. You can tell her everything about your life and lament out loud that you have no idea what to do. She might say something like “Well it sounds like you’re pretty overwhelmed right now. I don’t think I’d make any major decisions right now. Give it a week and come back to it later? At least sleep on it!”
Tip 3: Be more engaged than an actor in a Jared commercial
We’re not going to Jared, but we ARE asking for a commitment—could you promise to commit to being an active participant in your reading? As the Google metaphor in the last tip illustrated, tarot requires you to be at least a little curious and talkative about what’s happening to and around you. If you’re on the shier side or you feel there are TOO MANY questions to ask, don’t worry! You don’t necessarily have to get a reading done in person. People of my generation are probably accustomed to things like ICQ, Instant Messenger, and online chatrooms. I have only done a handful of online readings, but the ones I’ve had went really well; we were exchanging information as though we’d already met in person. To put it another way, you will get out of a reading what you put into it.
That’s about it for my tips for readings, I’m happy you’ve stuck with me despite my sparse updates. I’ll make an effort to not let the corners of this blog get so dusty. Stay well, tarot friends!